Boundaries and dating
One thing to remember is that whenever God tells us not to do something, it’s because He has a better plan.He doesn’t want us to get hurt by following our own paths.I love the standard that the biblical author, James, gives us to determine what is and isn’t sin in our lives.This counsel is especially helpful when it comes to sexual purity.For example, spending time alone in your room late at night with the door shut is probably not the best idea.
Have a “this, but not that” discussion, and by the name of all that’s holy... Don’t simply think what does and does not arouse you.
Physical contact is meant to express affection, not to sexually arouse either you or your partner. Guard your heart and your partner’s heart from lust.
Whenever there is sexual arousal, you have transgressed the guideline of the “Holy Kiss” and have sinned in the use of your freedom to express physical closeness.
Here are a few of my ponderings: When I was discouraged after a miserable athletic performance, my father would often put his arm around me.
Walking through a dangerous area at night, I would feel his protecting hand on my shoulder. Walking behind me at the dinner table, my mom would do this “rubbing-of-my-head-until-my-hair-looked-like-I-just-woke-up” thing. I imagine tears are now beginning to form in the corners of your eyes.
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They should be rather intuitive, which always makes for a good standard, but we’ll spell out some principles to avoid legal problems should someone use this standard to defend the owning and operating of a Christian brothel.